you know, there are always such posts around the web. but i believe that i do need to hold such stands. about religion, about respect, about submission, about finance, about love. 

which is why i need to have a discerning mind with regard to r/s constantly pray to God for wisdom and a discerning heart, for the human heart is weak, and i acknowledge i haven't been any good in it so far. and trusting in God to provide is such a comforting thought; it does not mean i have no responsibilities but that i do not have to worry excessively about things. after all, with his providence for the past 24 years, what more do i have to doubt? even now, i am still amazed by His grace and blessings everyday.

so here goes the post:

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:
“What kind of man are you looking for?”

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, ‘Do
you really want to know?’
Reluctantly, he said,”Yes.”

She began to expound…

“As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to
ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any
man…or woman for that matter.
I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’”

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, “I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said, “I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I
need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t
need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe
for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t
need a financial burden.

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a
woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and
game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader and
provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.

I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must
respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I
have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me. He will
recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection,
but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for
man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said,”You are asking a
lot.”

She replied, “I’m worth a lot”.

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yes, i believe im worth all that too. and when it comes i'd know it and give my all.

+ val-* @ 9:38 PM

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